Resources mentioned
Shifting the Silence by Etel Adnan
We Don’t Cancel Us by Adrienne Maree Brown
“I recently had a friend confront me, really call my character into question. And then terminate our friendship. This friend has seen me at some low points in my life but I have really showed up for them a lot in the last year and have always listened, apologized and changed when they voice concerns or issues. After this final conversation, I’m feeling so unsure about my perspective of reality and how to move forward and learn from the confrontation. Any advice? How do we deal with criticism of our character and who we are as people rather than about specific behaviors or patterns?”
“I have a few trusted people in my life, whether a therapist, a 12-step sponsor, someone I see regularly who is working in the psychic realm or a tarot reader, a neighbor, your grandmother, an aunt or uncle, I don’t think there’s a right person for this, but I have enough sort of neutral people, who aren’t in the mix with that friend, and I try to give them the facts, not the feelings of this situation. This person, I trust them to reflect back to me the truest perspective that we can come up with together.”